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Conflicts between adults and teenagers. Reasons and ways out.
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11 июня 2007 20:57
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Conflicts between adults and teenagers. Reasons and ways out.
Nowadays it’s hard to live without conflicts. It’s a real fact, so conflicts change our life. It’s the usual thing in our time. However, conflicts can be divided in to some groups, so the consequences are different too. It may be a simply family quarrel or even the long standing friction and wars. However, I’d like to say a few fords about conflicts between adults and teenagers. It’s the most widespread one, so nearly everybody has been suffering from it. The most important question is why such conflicts existed and what are the ways out.
Nowadays the age, which is called “teenagers”, is the most disobedient one. You know, they are always downright dishonest, tell parents that were going to do their homework with the friend, and actually they are nipping off to a local disco. And so on. There are lots of examples. Nearly every parent ask a question “why children grow up before your eyes and change in to surly, bad-mannered, scruffy, youths? And really, why they are always contradict one world? Why are they always contradicting everything you say? That’s teenagers are all over the world, isn’t it?
On the other hands nearly every teenager thinks that parents are always nagging, they always give you their opinion, whether you ask for it or not. Parents will keep interfering in your choice of everything.
Of course it will always happen, in other words this problem will always exists. When we are children, we are dependent on our parents for everything we do. However, teenagers are not children, and they are not adults yet, parents expect them to still behave like children, and the same young people are trying to find out who they are as individuals. So there’s lots of conflict, lots of stress. And of course, teenagers are always pushing back the boundaries of rules. It’s one of the key things of adolescence and the more authoring the parent’s rules.
Of course this problem can be solved, on the other hand such kind of conflict can repeat. So to solve the problem the parents should stop misunderstanding between teenagers and adults. It can be done in different ways. The first one is forgiveness. It has to be the starting point, and that’s not always easy. The young person has to look at things from the parents viewpoint. And parents have to try to involve teenagers more decision making, instead of trying to impose their ideas on the young person.
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